7 Awesome Things That Happened When I Started Surfing at 55

“It’s never too late for a new beginning in your life.” ~Joyce Meyer I sat on the beach, watching the sandpipers skittering back and forth, pecking at the water’s edge. A dead horseshoe crab washed back and forth in the surf. Finished at fifty-five, I thought. I’m as...

How Are You Trading Your Time, Energy and Life?

“The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.” ~Henry David Thoreau We all make trades in life. We trade our time. We trade our energy. We trade our hard-earned money. We trade our attention. Many of us move through life in constant...

How to Break Free from Your Inhibition and Start Living Life

“You are very powerful provided you know how powerful you are.” ~Yogi Bhajan For most of my life, I felt that life was happening to everyone else and I just got to watch. Someone else’s parents came to see their high school graduation and celebrated with...

How to Gently Coax Yourself Out of your Comfort Zone

“Everything you ever wanted is one step outside your comfort zone.” ~Unknown We’ve all seen this quote or similar ones. All the magic, growth, and transformation seem to happen there. Not everything that happens outside the comfort zone is magical though. So, when we go...

Why Your Failures Are Your Most Valuable Currency

“The master has failed more time than the apprentice has even attempted.” ~Proverb There’s no prize for coming last. But that doesn’t mean it holds no value at all. We’re so obsessed with not measuring up to expectations that we can deny ourselves the permission to...

How to Recreate Meaning Now That the Pandemic Has Upended Life

“It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean.” ~Tony Robbins  Like millions of others, I lost my job in the wave of the coronavirus pandemic. I was teaching on a small island in the...

How to Be Really Great at Failing

One of my dad’s favorite stories to tell about me when I was a kid is when I played catcher in Little League. I was probably around seven years old, but I had (and still do have) an intensity that wasn’t matched. I would squat...

If You Think Reaching Your Goal Will Make You Happy…

The path IS the goal. The process is more important than the result. Life is a journey, not a destination. There are three very common, some might say cheesy and clichéd sayings you may hear when it comes to taking action to reach your goals. Some of you...

When You Want to Make Progress Fast and Feel Impatient

“Tortoise was over the line. After that, Hare always reminded himself, ‘Don’t brag about your lightning pace, for Slow and Steady won the race!‘“ ~The Tortoise and the Hare (Aesop’s Fables) I was sitting in an introduction to calligraphy workshop when a fellow student asked the instructor, “What do I need to become a professional Calligrapher, what would it take?” We were all on the edge of our seats with that one. It was as if we were about to learn the secret ingredient to Grandma’s cookies. The answer, to our surprise, was pen and paper. “The materials are no different than that of a novice calligrapher,” the instructor explained. The distinction between a novice and professional calligrapher is not in the tools they use, but rather in the professional’s commitment to practice, their pace, and the time they took to learn and do something. The same goes for any professional at their craft. I recalled a time when I was on a cruise ship and saw all these tourists with huge camera lenses and gadgets for their cameras. I was incredibly impressed and at times intimidated with their gear as I would hold up my own iPhone to snap a quick picture. After a while of being on board, you get to know one another well. I realized that despite their top tier lens, basically all of their cameras were set in auto mode. What good is such an advanced lens when you don’t know how to use it? They had gone from zero to one hundred with no practice, no skills acquired, just fancier devices. This lesson on the professional calligrapher has always intrigued me. When we look up to the expert, we assume that increasing the quality of materials or having access to nicer resources is what makes them great. This assumption overlooks the time it would have taken them to learn something new and to achieve their goal. Instead, we want to cut corners and are looking for the shortcut. We want to make progress as soon as possible, perhaps because we feel behind in life and think we need to hurry to get ahead, or because we think we’ll be happier when we reach our goal, Cutting corners is not a strategy that necessarily benefits us. It’s a way for us to be more useful and readily available to others, get more things done, and exhibit productivity. Our concern for positive feedback and acceptance by others keeps us from taking the time to experience something thoroughly for ourselves, just because we enjoy it or are curious about it. Just because. This past year I have been working with my sister to brainstorm new career opportunities. My current goal is to become an independent filmmaker. Similar to the observations shared above, I found myself quickly approaching the mindset of the calligraphy student: What would it take, what would I need to make the best movies, to be a great filmmaker? I too, wanted the shortcut. The direct route to achieving my goal. Is there a certain camera lens I need to have, light kit, microphone, or skill that would lead me right to success? After deep dives into blogs about filmmakers and watching online video subscriptions about filmmaking, it occurred to me that I had all that I needed to accomplish my goal. There was no shortcut to filmmaking. It was just going to take time. Time for me to learn more about the tools that I already had. Time to pick up my camera and practice shooting interviews. Time to use a pen and paper to write down script ideas. Time to make bad videos so that the next time I could make a better video. Time for repeated effort, continual practice, and eventually, improvement. It’s easy to get caught wasting time looking for a solution instead of taking time. In the end, we lose energy and motivation looking for the right tools or answers. We do things with the intention of going fast rather than far. We fixate on the end result and rob ourselves of the fun we’d have and excitement we’d feel if we let ourselves enjoy the journey. Instead, I’ve learned that I stand with the tortoise, not the hare, “Slow and steady .” Go far. Reach farther. Take the time to become your best self. See a typo or inaccuracy? Please contact us so we can fix it!

Last Day for the Best You, Best Life Bundle (20 Online Tools, 95% Off!)

Well, all good things must come to an end, and that time has come for Tiny Buddha’s Best You, Best Life Bundle Sale. Since I’ve been shouting about this sale from the rooftops all week, odds are you’re at least a little familiar with what’s...