How to Survive a Breakup with an Addict and Heal Your Heart

“The positive cannot exist without the negative.” ~Alan Watts My heart was empty. It had never felt that empty before. Sometimes I felt a gap gnawing at my chest making everything around me feel like half of a whole. I felt like a piece of...

What It Means to Love: 9 Steps to a Strong Relationship

“Be there. Be open. Be honest. Be kind. Be willing to listen, understand, accept, support, and forgive. This is what it means to love.” ~Lori Deschene They say your heart pounds when you’re in love. But the very idea of opening up and letting love in...

What Hurts Us the Most in Unhealthy and Unloving Relationships

“Once we make our relationship choices in an adult way, a prospective partner who is unavailable, nonreciprocal, or not open to processing feelings and issues, becomes, by these very facts, unappealing. Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they...

Family Estrangement: 3 Stories and the Advice You Need to Hear

“Home is not a place, it’s a feeling.” ~Cecilia Ahern This post is written by three people from different parts of the world who came together to share their story of family estrangement and their choice not to reconcile. To the outside world, it seemed none...

When You Don’t Like Being Nice: Finding an Alternative

“Don’t trade your authenticity for approval.” ~Unknown As a nice person, I am often conflicted because sometimes I don’t enjoy being nice. Sometimes I act nice out of moral obligation or because I’m trying to be consistent with my perceived identity. Do you view yourself as...

Why I Want to Stop Judging and How This Opens My Heart

“The quicker you are in attaching verbal or mental labels to things, people, or situations, the more shallow and lifeless your reality becomes, and the more deadened you become to reality.” ~Eckhart Tolle Things are hard right now, aren’t they? When I first started writing...

How to Come Out Stronger After Heartbreak

“And when I thought ‘I can’t go on,’ the universe expanded, mother earth hummed and the moon whispered, ‘Yes, you can’.” ~Wicked Words Heartbreak. The feeling that so many of us would pay big (BIG) money to skip through. I can’t tell you how many...

Why We Feel Lonely and What to Do About It

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” ~Lau Tzu With social distancing measures in place in response to the new coronavirus, many of us have a lot more time on our...

We’re All in This Together, and That’s a Beautiful Thing

“Lessons in life will be repeated until they are learned.” ~Frank Sonnenberg Right now, I am living my life in lines. This is not code for something philosophically abstract or profound. I am literally living my life in lines.  Lines with approximately six feet between me...

How to Be True to Yourself When Someone Violates a Boundary

“This above all: to thine own self be true.” ~William Shakespeare Though I appeared pretty high-functioning and what you might call “normal” as a kid, I was a ball of self-doubt and insecurity from an early age. Overthinking, scrutinizing my actions, and generally worrying about what...