5 Things I Let Go When I Was Tired of Playing the Victim

“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgment gives you the power to change them.” ~ Byron Katie I will never forget the day a dear friend of mine told me...

Do You Remember When You Didn’t Worry About Your Weight?

“We need to start focusing on what matters—on how we feel, and how we feel about ourselves.” ~Michelle Obama Do you remember the little girl (or boy) in you? The kid who ran, jumped, danced, laughed anywhere and everywhere they felt like it—before someone told...

How to Calm Morning Anxiety by Mindfully Drinking Tea

“Mindfulness isn’t difficult. We just need to remember to do it.” ~Sharon Salzberg As a Brit, I do what we British people do best: drink tea. Lots of it. I’ve drunk a cup of tea every morning since I was a chubby-faced teenager. I used to think...

Sorry If I “Trigger” You, But I Will Never Move On

“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” ~John Steinbeck When you lose someone close to you, there are a plethora of duties you must first complete. When my boyfriend passed away from cancer at...

When Self-Help Hurts: How My Obsession Kept Me Stuck

“Quiet the voice telling you to do more and be more, and trust that in this moment, who you are, where you are at, and what you are doing is enough. You will get to where you need to be in your own time....

When You Feel Bad About Feeling Sad and Anxious

“You don’t have to be brave all of the time. You are not damaged or defeated. Have patience. Give yourself permission to grieve, to cry, and to heal. Allow a bit of compassion, you’re doing the best you can. We all are.” ~Unknown Growing up, I...

Deconstructing Shame: How to Break Free from Your Past

“We cannot grow when we are in shame, and we can’t use shame to change ourselves or others.” ~Brené Brown “I don’t deserve to be happy.” “I’ll never be good enough.” “I’m not worthy of love.” Sound familiar? I hear phrases like this all the time in my work...

How to Open Your Eyes and Make the Most of Life

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” ~Marcel Proust I was asleep for the first thirty-two years of my life. I was jolted awake when my daughter was born unable to sustain her own breath. I sat...

How to Successfully Cope with a Crisis using Surrender

“Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.” ~Sonia Ricotti The scent of sanitizer once again pervades my home. And as much as I am grateful for it, every time I use it, that astringent, alcoholic smell takes...

What I Learned About Love and Grief When I Lost My Cats

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” ~Anatole France Unconditional love. The thought of my cats envelops me with warmth whenever I think of them. Why? Because we’re so connected. It’s an ethereal thing. Beyond words. Beyond reality. Beyond rationality. When I’m...