4 Sensitive Superpowers That Can Change Your Life (and the World)


“You
were
born
to
be
among
the
advisors
and
thinkers,
the
spiritual
and
moral
leaders
for
your
society.
There
is
every
reason
for
pride.”


~
Elaine
N.
Aron

Stop
being
so
sensitive.
Lighten
up.
You’re
oversensitive.
Stop
overthinking.
You’re
weird.

If
you’re
anything
like
me,
you’ve
had
those
words
slung
at
you
like
rocks
from
a
slingshot
for
as
long
as
you
can
remember.
The
underlying
message
is
clear:
You’re
too
much.
There’s
something
wrong
with
you.

Your
heart
strings
have
always
been
like
finely
tuned
antennae,
picking
up
on
even
the
most
subtle
signals
of
other
people’s
heartache
and
embarrassment.
Witnessing
someone
in
intense
pain
can
cause
you
inner
turmoil
for
weeks
on
end.
And
when

you

feel
pain,
it’s
always
intense.

I
get
it.
I
can
still
remember
clearly
the
first
time
I
had
my
heart
broken.
We’d
moved
across
the
country,
and
my
best
friend
mailed
me
a
letter
to
formally
let
me
know
that,
with
me
having
moved
away,
we
were
no
longer
best
friends.
She
had
a
new
best
friend
and
they
had
special
nicknames
for
each
other.

It’s
the
kind
of
playground
politics
that
have
been
going
on
since
time
immemorial,
but
I
didn’t
know
this.
It
probably
wouldn’t
have
helped
if
I
did.
It
was
my
first
time
being
rejected,
and
it
hurt
like
hell.

When
I
went
back
to
that
same
school
a
few
years
later,
no
one
would
play
with
me.
My
friend
was
right:
She’d
moved
on.
So
had
everyone
else
in
my
class.
At
recess,
I
sat
alone,
eating
my
tomato
sandwiches.

One
of
the
new
boys
started
picking
on
me,
calling
me
horrible
names,
while
my
former
friends
simply
stood
by
and
watched.

My
teacher
picked
up
that
something
was
wrong.
She
called
us
in
and
asked
what
was
going
on.
When
we’d
shared
our
stories
with
her,
I
was
stunned
by
her
reaction.

Instead
of
using
it
as
an
opportunity
for
learning
and
healing,
she
brushed
the
whole
thing
off.
In
that
one
seemingly
insignificant
action,
she
was
upholding
the
message
society
gives
us
from
the
minute
we’re
born:
Being
sensitive
is
wrong.
Being
vulnerable
is
even
worse.
Just
harden
up
already
and
get
on
with
things.

At
the
end
of
that
year,
when
we
went
off
to
high
school,
the
other
kids
voted
for
me
to
get
the
‘loyalty’
award
at
prize
giving.
I
wasn’t
too
young
to
get
the
irony.

By
high
school,
I
was
ready.
I’d
learned
my
lesson.
Like
many
people
who’d
been
told
all
their
life
they
were
too
sensitive,
I’d
developed
impressive
armor.
I
would
go
into
my
teenage
years
knowing
how
to
keep
people
out.

By
my
twenties
I’d
perfected
the
art
of
keeping
people
at
a
distance.

Then,
in
my
thirties,
I
dared
to
ask
myself:
What
if
sensitivity
is
a
good
thing?
The
mere
idea
felt
transgressive.
But
then
again…
what
if
it

was?

What
if,
in
fact,
sensitivity
was
a

gift
?

I
decided
to
do
an
experiment.
At
that
point,
I’d
been
to
trillions
of
job
interviews
in
two
years,
with
no
luck.
Every
time
I’d
got
to
one,
I’d
dress
up
in
the
stiff,
corporate
way
I
thought
told
interviewers
you
were
capable.
I
was
putting
on
my
armor.
Not
this
time.
If
sensitivity
was
a
good
thing,
how
would
showing
people
that
side
of
me
be?

I
decided
to
embrace
who
I
was.
I
dressed
in
a
way
that
felt
authentic
to
me.
Something
more
artistic,
flowy
that
to
me,
clearly
signalled:
Here
is
a
sensitive,
creative
person.
These
are
the
qualities
you’ll
get
when
you
hire
this
person.

It
worked!
It
was
the
best
interview
ever.
We
had
an
actual,
meaningful
conversation
instead
of
the
stilted
kind
of
thing
that
usually
goes
on
in
interviews.
They
hired
me.

Today
I’m
utterly
convinced
there
are
many,
many
advantages
to
being
sensitive,
and
I
keep
finding
more.
Here
are
some
of
the
more
unexpected
gems
that
I
just
adore
and
that
make
me
excited
about
being
a
sensitive
person.
I
hope
you’ll
be
just
as
enthralled.

We’re
super
observant.

Sensitive
people
are
keenly
aware
of
what’s
going
on
around
us
at
all
times.
In
fact,
highly
sensitive
people
should
actually
be
called
highly
observant
people,
says
psychologist
Elaine
Aron,
who
created
the
scientific
model
for
what
it
is
to
be
a
person
with
the
trait
of
high
sensitivity.

We’re
always
scanning
the
environment
and
people
around
us
in
order
to
understand
what’s
going
on
and
to
make
an
emotional
connection,
usually
at
a
speed
that
would
send
someone
else
reeling.



How
to
use
your
gift
of
being
observant:

It’s
no
wonder
employers
report
being
more
satisfied
with
sensitive
workers.
Being
aware
of
every
single
detail—the
ones
to
expect
and
the
ones
to
eliminate—is
a
big
plus
in
just
about
any
job,
from
surgeon
to
event
planner
to
researcher.
It
also
makes
us
great
with
people.

Highly
sensitive
athletes
even
report
it
being
a
plus
on
the
sports
field,
where
they
don’t
even
have
to
see
everything
going
on
around
them—it’s
as
if
they
can
feel
where
the
other
players
are,
anticipating
their
next
moves.

Whether
it’s
building
a
rapport
with
your
neighbors,
knowing
what
your
clients
need,
or
noticing
the
tiny
detail
that
makes
all
the
difference
in
the
product
you’re
creating,
your
gift
of
being
observant
is
a
massive
plus
for
your
personal
life
and
career
success.

We’re
deeply
joyful
people.

When
you’re
told
all
your
life
that
you’re
“too
sensitive”
and
“too
emotional,”
it
can
feel
like
you’re
some
sort
of
mopey
Eeyore-type
character.
I
remember
being
told
my
personality
type
was
“melancholic,”
which
even
as
a
child
I
knew
was
an
old-fashioned
word
for
depressed.
Way
to
make
someone
feel
good
about
themselves!

Thing
is,
like
me,
you’ve
probably
always
suspected
that’s
not
the
whole
truth.

Like
me,
you’re
likely
to
be
the
person
who
laughs
loudest
in
the
cinema.
The
one
whose
friends
are
able
to
locate
them
by
following
their
laugh
in
a
theatre.
The
ones
who,
when
they
return
after
being
away
for
a
while,
overhear
their
friends
saying,
“Aaah—that
laugh.
I’ve
missed
that
laugh.’

Truth
is,
sensitive
people
feel
everything
deeply—that
includes
happiness,
joy,
and
exhilaration.
We’re
the
kids
who
check
out
the
environment
thoroughly
before
using
the
flying
fox
or
the
water
slide,
and
also
the
ones
who
feel
the
most
exhilarated
after
finally
taking
that
plunge.



How
to
use
your
gift
of
joy:

Mindfulness
is
a
bit
of
a
buzz
word
these
days
and
for
good
reason—in
these
busy
times,
it’s
a
great
way
to
lower
stress
and
increase
your
engagement
with
the
physical
world.

When
you’re
already
someone
who
notices
the
tiny
detail
on
a
leaf
or
the
vivid
turquoise
of
the
kingfisher
flying
over
the
lagoon,
it’s
much
easier
to
tap
into
mindfulness—and
joyfulness.

While
I
don’t
like
the
term
“overthinking,”
as
it
feels
very
negative—seeing
all
the
possible
outcomes
is
a
plus
in
many
ways—we
can
sometimes
get
stuck
in
a
rumination
loop,
feeling
overwhelmed
and
paralyzed
when
faced
with
making
a
decision.

This
is
when
our
ability
to
appreciate
beauty,
art,
and
joy
becomes
such
a
wonderful
gift.
Take
time
to
notice
the
beauty
around
you
and
to
just
be,
and
feel
your
mood
lift.
Enjoying
that
walk
in
nature
often
brings
clarity,
allowing
the
solution
to
appear
as
if
out
of
nowhere.

We
make
superb
leaders.

If
you’ve
felt
beaten
down
for
a
long
time,
it
can
feel
like
you’re
just
not
cut
out
for
a
leadership
role.
Truth
is,
you’re
uniquely
equipped
for
this
role.

Not
only
do
employers
report
more
satisfaction
with
their
sensitive
employees,
but
studies
show
we
make
incredible
leaders.

It
makes
sense
really—people
want
to
follow
someone
they
can
trust.

“Highly
sensitive
people
miss
nothing,
while
falling
back
to
let
team
members
shine
and
have
the
innate
ability
to
say
the
right
thing
at
just
the
right
time,”
says
John
Hughes,
who
trains
corporate
clients
on
how
best
to
support
their
highly
sensitive
employees.

Now
that
sounds
like
someone
I’d
want
to
follow!



How
to
use
your
gift
of
leadership:

We
don’t
often
associate
gentleness
with
leadership,
so
seeing
yourself
as
a
born
leader
might
be
hard
right
now.

In
reality,
anyone
who
inspires
people
by
their
actions
to
live
a
better
life
is
a
leader.
Right
now,
you
might
be
an
inspiring
leader
to
your
friends
or
your
children.

So
ask
yourself:
Is
this
my
season
to
take
on
a
leadership
role?
Maybe
you
want
to
lead
your
volunteer
group
or
apply
for
that
management
position
at
work.
Maybe
you’re
in
that
stage
of
life
when
your
career
is
drawing
to
a
close
and
you
want
to
pass
on
invaluable
knowledge
by
mentoring
younger
people.

Don’t
be
afraid—step
up
to
that
leadership
position.
No
one
can
do
this
better
than
you.

We’re
innovators.

When
you
look
inside
a
sensitive
person’s
brain,
you’ll
notice
that
areas
for
understanding
subtle
cues
are
more
activated.
So
are
the
ones
for
depth
of
processing.

Noticing
and
thinking
deeply
about
things
allow
us
to
combine
ideas
in
novel
ways.
We’re
born
innovators.



How
to
use
your
gift
of
creativity:

The
world
is
absolutely
crying
out
for
creative
thinkers
right
now.
Everyone
from
established
corporate
firms
to
small
start-ups
is
actively
seeking
out
innovative
minds.

The
information
era
is
most
probably
the
very
best
time
for
a
sensitive
person
to
be
alive.
So,
whether
you
use
your
creativity
to
contribute
to
a
supportive
workplace,
to
create
your
own
business,
or
to
raise
one
lucky
family,
you
have
it
in
you.

If
you
believe
in
yourself
and
work
hard,
always
following
your
principles
and
looking
after
yourself,
the
sky’s
the
limit!

You
Can
Change
the
World

As
a
sensitive
person,
you
have
unique
talents
and
insights
to
offer
the
world.

You’ve
come
a
long
way,
learning
more
about
yourself
and
slowly
accepting
the
fact
that
being
a
sensitive
person
is
not
something
to
be
ashamed
of.

In
fact,
you’re
starting
to
see
it
as
a
gift—and
you’re
excited
about
the
possibilities.

You’re
a
keen
observer,
a
fantastic
leader,
a
natural-born
innovator,
a
deeply
joyful
person
and
someone
who
benefits
enormously
from
having—and
creating—a
supportive
environment
for
yourself
and
others.

With
gifts
like
these,
there’s
no
one
better
equipped
to
change
the
world.
All
you
have
to
do
is
step
out.

The
world
needs
you
right
now.

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